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15 powerful reasons why you should still date your spouse

Marriage is a game changer when it comes to all aspects of your life. You have made a commitment. You are sharing your day to day with someone. And you spend time doing life beside this person. It can be hard to make time to date and we can overlook it because we are already spending so much of our non-working day with this person. Things are different.

When you are dating someone, you are doing it to get to know them. There is an element of thrill and excitement to every date.

Read more: The joy in dating your spouse

Then you get married. You feel like you already know this person and so the reasons behind dating no longer apply. It is at this point that we need to change our reasons for dating.

Without further delay, enjoy 15 powerful reasons why you should still date your spouse.

15 powerful reasons why you should still date your spouse

  1. As you go through different life events and as you age, you and your spouse will change. You need to keep up with who they are becoming as well as who they are presently. We need to keep learning about our spouse. Have their beliefs matured? What new knowledge do they have? Do they have any new likes or dislikes? Are they facing any challenges or triumphs? What emotions are they experiencing?
  2. It is a way to show them they are your #2 (only coming after God!). As they old saying goes: actions speak louder than words. Date nights aren’t always easy. They take time, planning, effort, and thought. By planning something for your spouse and spending that time with him/her, it shows that you are investing into your relationship. You are showing your spouse that he/she is still worth it – even after marriage (and kids).
  3. In marriage, two people become one flesh. The more time you spend on your relationship, the more you will learn to become and function as a single unit. The closer you become, the more united you can become.
  4. While on a date, you are a team. For any activities you do, you work together to complete them. Those activities you do as a team strengthens and fosters a team mentality. This transfers back to your home environment and can help you work towards a more united home front. This team mentality can be especially helpful if you have children.
  5. As a team, you can become more set to finding resolutions. This can help you fight less because you are used to working together and being united.
  6. As a reminder of why you fell in love with your spouse. By eliminating the day to day stuff (chores needing to be done, mundane house projects {this excludes couples date projects}, things you should do, etc), you are able to change your mindset to focus on your spouse in a positive light. You can experience all the emotions and happiness that may remind you of why you fell in love in the first place. By focusing on your spouse in this way, it allows your needs to be met and allows you to fix your eyes on your spouse.
  7. It can lead to more (or at least meaningful) intimacy. I felt hesitation to include this one, but good, healthy intimacy is important in a marriage.
  8. It allows you opportunities to create new memories together.
  9. Another saying says: the family that plays together, stays together. This works because by doing this, you are nurturing your relationship. Find opportunities to play and laugh with your spouse.
  10. It allows you to act as a role model for others. When people see you and your spouse happy and your marriage thriving, the may ask your secret – quality time together doing the things you love and trying new things.
    • It may also help break the chain of broken marriages. We are called to love each other and to teach our children. We need to teach our children how to love their spouse, how to respect their spouse, how to nurture their marriage, and how to invest into a marriage to ensure it lasts. The best way we can do this is by leading through example.
  11. It can act as a rut preventative – just watch that you don’t fall into a date night rut! If you find yourself in a date night rut, try something new!
  12. It can ensure that your spouse stays as your #2 and not work. It is easy to allow work to take over your number one and two spots, but we need to ensure that it doesn’t. And work isn’t always the culprit. As soon as your marriage isn’t your #2, something will take it’s place.
  13. It creates positivity in your marriage. This can really help during stressful and difficult times of your lives! Relive and remember the joy and excitement you share with your spouse. Positive emotions are powerful things.
  14. It fills up your grace tank. When things are good and you share positive interactions, you tend to have more patience. You will likely be able to extend this to your spouse when met with downfalls.
  15. It slows things down and creates quality time. It is unhurried, uninterrupted, and focused.

Read more: 40 ways to build up and encourage your spouse

Nurturing your relationship

A marriage left to its own devices is unlikely to flourish. Our marriages should be the our top focus after God. We need to do our best to ensure we put in the time and effort needed to ensure we give our marriages their best, fighting chance. Dating may just be the key to catapult your marriage to new heights.

Read more: The shift: belief and love as building blocks

How have your nurtured your marriage today?

Feel free to comment below with date ideas, how you’ve been nurturing your marriage, how I can pray for you, or any other comments!

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39 thoughts on “15 powerful reasons why you should still date your spouse

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, I love everything about this. It really speaks to the power of positive time together. Thank you again. Have a blessed day.

    1. Yes it definitely can. I think any relationship can benefit from these reasons. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment!

  1. I love doing dates with my husband. We’ve been married 15 years now and our friendship just keeps getting sweeter! The newest crazy, for us, is that we now have a 12-year-old who is now old enough to stay at home with our younger children so we can occasionally go out without paying someone. We don’t do it often, but it’s a new thing that is definitely different after years of having to find someone to watch our children.

    1. Whoo hooo! That is so exciting! My mother just moved locally so it is sooo nice to have childcare accessible. I can totally understand where you are coming from. After 15 years, what have been your favourite dates? Always looking for some new ideas from veteran couples. Thank you so much for your lovely comment.

  2. I totally agree with this! I am a newlywed and some might say we are in the honeymoon phase but we have been together for so long that it has felt like we have been married for years. We always make a point to go on dates, it keeps the sparks flying!

    1. Exactly! The key is to keep it going and the earlier into the marriage you start, the better. Pre-marriage there is always the escape of leaving the relationship, but after marriage, it is so crucial to invest into it in order to maintain a healthy marriage. Wishing you all the best in your married journey!

  3. I totally agree! I love having date nights. It’s so true that my husband and I are constantly growing and changing as people; date nights help us figure out who we are! lol

    1. It’s so true! Date nights can also help us learn more about ourselves as well as our spouses. Thank you for your comment. Wishing you all the best!

  4. This is beautiful and so true!! Marriage should not change dating or even working towards winning over the other person with details. It can be such a beautiful adventure together. Sometimes it’s hard but it is very necessary to keep everything balanced.

    1. Yes, I can be very hard sometimes. When we invest into the adventure, it definitely is a beautiful one. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! Wishing you all the best.

  5. This is a great post! As a mum of two boys under 3 I can attest that like you said it’s not always easy to find time for date night! It’s important to spend time together though, and to make sure your spouse knows they are a priority in your life 🙂

    1. Thank you so much. I absolutely agree with you. And young children make it so difficult, but there are so many reasons to push past the difficulties to spend some lovely quality time with your spouse. Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Wishing you all the best!

  6. These are so true and so important! I’ve been married for 6 years and can see how children and the everyday hustle and bustle of life can make you forget to take the time out to date your spouse, but it really needs to remain a priority!

    1. Thank you for your comment. Life definitely gets in the way of putting your spouse as a priority. Wishing you all the best.

  7. What a beautiful post! I believe it is important to still date your husband especially this days when people have less and less time. I normally don’t have time to spend too much time with my husband my we do travel a lot so each time is one big date for us 🙂

  8. Let me tell you that even after 18 years of our marriage, our love life is still going strong. We do not go out on dates, but we can’t live without each other either. Our fights are sometimes vicious but we realize the meaningless of stressful situations. This reminds me- I have to take my wife out on a date. Woohoo.

    1. Thank you for your lovely comment. It is definitely something to keep in mind as you navigate through relationships and onto marriage. Wishing you all the best.

  9. This something I have spoken about to a few of my friends and they all seem to laugh at me! I am fully on board with this because neglecting your relationship is a recipe for disaster in my opinion.

  10. New memories together are so important. I always try to find a unique date a few times a year for us to do. This year for our anniversary, my husband surprised me by book a shark cage diving adventure. So fun!

    1. That is so cool!!! Unique dates really are a good way to keep things fresh. Even if it is taking a movie night and making it a little different. Thank you so much for your comment.

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