Do you have days where you struggle to get out of bed? Where you struggle do get through your to-do list? Or where you just don’t want to do anything? Me too, me too. I have often struggled with seeking motivation and purpose in the day-to-day.
I have had days where I just didn’t see a point in doing my mile-long to-do list, especially when it comes to chores.
Adulting is hard some days. Working to pay bills, keeping a clean home, getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising? Maybe even throw some kids and/or pets into the mix and then you have their needs to look after too.
When the routine is stuck on repeat, it can be hard to find motivation to wake up and relive each day over and over.
Sure, some things change, but often, the same tasks seem to play over and over in the exact same way with maybe a change of clothes in the mix.
Adulting can be hard. Let’s just say this again. Oftentimes, we fail to look after ourselves in favour of those we care about – spouse, kids, pets, other family members, friends, etc.
Is there even enough hours in the day?
Have you asked yourself this question? I know I sure have!
Are there really enough hours in the day to do everything? Well, depending on your list, there very well may not be.
If this is the case, how do we get it all done? Prioritizing. By prioritizing and setting the most important tasks of the day, it makes our mountain a little more manageable to climb. This can really turn around a day.
Seeking motivation and purpose in the day-to-day
1. Let everything you do be done for the Lord.
23 Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men, 24 knowing [with all certainty] that it is from the Lord [not from men] that you will receive the inheritance which is your [greatest] reward. It is the Lord Christ whom you [actually] serve.
Colossians 3:23 AMP
When you wake up, get out of bed to serve the Lord. When you feed your body (and anyone else in you care), feed it to fuel your body to serve the Lord. As you navigate the mundane day-to-day tasks, do it to serve God as each day, each task, each need provided to you is a gift from God.
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2. Do not try to please or compete with others.
10 Am I now [a]trying to win the favor and approval of men, or of God? Or am I seeking to please someone? If I were still trying to be popular with men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10 AMP
It is easy to get caught up with what others are doing or what others have. Your friend brings home a shiny new car. Your neighbour’s house has better curb appeal. And don’t forget that your brother gets paid triple what you do.
It’s not always about material possessions… Your sister is much more organized than you. Your friend is creative and puts together cute little lunches for her children. And your brother has more business sense. These can be hard to overcome because people make it seem so easy, so much so that you feel you should be able to do it too.
Just remember that you were given a unique set of spiritual gifts and each of us was created with a plan in mind. The plan for me differs from God’s plan for you. Our spiritual gifts vary and maybe even drastically.
We may try to please our spouse, children, family, friends, bosses, neighbours, etc. Just remember that the ante can always increase without notice. There is a good chance that you may never please some of these people. As you master one skill, it will be expected of you and you will be required to be better.
We need to stop pleasing everyone except for Christ. We will find our joy and fulfillment in serving Him. Even when we fall short, He welcomes us with open arms. Not many people will do that for us. He is consistently merciful and showers us with His grace.
3. Know where to seek your help.
1 I will lift up my eyes to the hills—
From where shall my help come?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.
Psalm 121:1-4 AMP
As we navigate through our days, we have to remember that Jesus is with us every step of the way. If we need help, He is there beside us and we can get our strength when we lean on Him.
If I need patience, or help, or direction, or motivation, I turn to God. Reading scripture, praying, or downright pleading on my knees, I lay it at the feet of Jesus. I will conquer the negativity and I will gain my motivation from Him.
I wish I could say I do this every time, but I’m getting better at it and that is a start!
4. Find your strength in Him
13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13 ESV
This one kind of goes with the previous point. If the days are tough, remember that He is beside you to give you strength. If you are struggling and having trouble seeking motivation and purpose in your day, lean on Him for strength.
We are imperfect, sinful beings. We need Jesus to get us through our days. We need His promises of strength, and grace, and uplifting daily. He can get us through our days, we just need to let Him.
Draw your strength and happiness in the mundane tasks from Him.
5. Build one another up.
17As iron sharpens iron,
So one man sharpens [and influences] another [through discussion].
Proverbs 27:17 AMP
In our daily lives, we get to interact with many people. If those we are interacting with have been built up, then the likelyhood of them returning the same behaviour is more likely. Together, if we nurture and foster positive relationships at home and out of our homes, we are more likely to sharpen another and have them sharpen us in return.
Even if this is not the case, the act of building another person up and sharpening them can cause us to feel positive about the experience and can positively impact our day.
We may also crave this interaction with others and it can give us motivation and purpose in our day-to-day.
6. Prioritize: create a hierarchy of things to do
This is so important. That and not overwhelming yourself with tasks! My biggest piece of advice is to set out three things that need to get done each day. Only three.
From there, create a list of semi-important or items with upcoming deadlines (cleaning the guest room before company arrives, work deadlines, payments, etc).
And then finally, create a list of items that can be approached on a casual basis.
When you finish your important tasks, if you are still rearing to go, pick one from the next list. Pick items off one by one, day by day, until you get that looming list done… who am I kidding, the list never goes away.
It is important to categorize the items based on importance and to reorganize the list as needed. Items will constantly be added and taken off, but if it is organized by importance, you will always know where to start and what items really should be left alone.
I have this awful habit of picking the least important tasks to do first because I procrastinate the important items. By creating a list in different places, I see what needs to be done to avoid overwhelm and to give me focus. It is a lifesaver!!
((As a small tip, I find making my bed before leaving my bedroom in the morning to be a good motivator to get stuff done. I’m not sure why, but if I make my bed, I seem to want to just get stuff done. Give it a try, it may work for you too!))
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7. Plan ahead to avoid wasted time
How often to we find ourselves forgetting things that we wish we had written down? Or my favourite is when I write it down and then forget my list. Wasted time is a quick way to destroy motivation and purpose, at least for me it is.
Planning is not limited in application. It can apply to weekly menus, daily planning, lists of things to pack, weekend itineraries, etc. Basically, any situation where having a plan can be of benefit to you.
My favourite is menu planning. Early in our marriage, I cannot think of how many times early I had to send my husband to the store for missing ingredients for a supper I decided we wanted. I cannot think of how many dollars we wasted not looking at the store flyer to determine what was on special. Or how often we just called in dinner because we didn’t have a plan.
This is one area that we felt the need to start planning first. From there, planning became contagious for me. I love using my planner. I love making lists. Planning saves so much headache that it is a necessity.
It also gives a clear guideline to avoid overwhelm and to encourage motivation.
8. Seek motivational texts to inspire you
For me, I go back to Psalm 121 as mentioned above. I draw my help from the Lord. In His word, there are tons of verses and chapters in which to draw motivation and inspiration from.
For me, Proverbs 31 is a great place to draw inspiration as a wife and mother. I also love Romans 12 to be encouraging as well.
The more I read God’s word, the more I feel equipped to handle my days. The more I look to God, the more willing and able I feel to tackle each day.
9. Be honest with yourself and others
Know your limits. Judge each day independently and be honest with where you think your day is headed. If the day isn’t starting off on the right foot, maybe be kind with your to-do list that day. If it is starting out amazing and you feel like you can tackle the world, do as much off of your lists as possible to alleviate another day.
But, remember to extend yourself grace even still. You can always micromanage as your days go on to ensure you maximize the most of each day. If that means you got dressed, that’s perfect.
Also, be honest with those you are accountable to. This is honestly one of the best things I’ve done. When I let my husband know how I was really feeling each day (even if it meant that on some days that I was thankful that we were eating supper before bedtime), things really started to improve. He understood more of how I was doing and we were able to tackle some things together to help lighten the load a little.
We aren’t superheros. The only superhero is Jesus, so let Him take care of the miracles and you just do you. We need to stop living the illusion that we are perfect and don’t need help. I need His help daily. I need my husband’s help daily. I am far from perfect, but when I started being honest, things changed.
I get more done. By not feeling guilty about not completing an unreasonable to-do list and having my husband on board to help out when he can, I feel more motivated and willing to get more accomplished. It’s great. I just had to humble myself to reach this point.
10. Eliminate distractions
Oh distractions. I have a love-hate relationship with them. Distractions can be anything and everything and obviously there are some we cannot eliminate (grouchy 4 year old as an example) for good reason.
I’m not even sure I could count how frequently I get distracted by silly things. Sometimes they are necessary to pause for a few moments to recharge, but I know I could seek out better ways.
When I tackle the important tasks of each day earlier in the day, I know that the rest of those days go smoother. This is because I can truly relax because I do not have those tasks in the back of my mind and I don’t carry the guilt of doing something other than them.
If I even save the distractions for a later point in the day and focus on my tasks, the day just goes so much better.
When I need a recharge, I need to work on turning to God’s Word over Facebook. This much I know. When I do, His Word gives my spirit such an uplifting. Facebook, well, it very rarely accomplishes this for me; so for me, it isn’t probably the best way to “recharge.”
Importance of seeking motivation and purpose in the day-to-day
It is important that we lean on God to find motivation and purpose in the day-to-day. Only He can provide us the strength to make it through each day when we don’t have the strength to push onward.
One thing is for certain, without motivation and purpose, we lose the desire to do many things in our lives. Slowly, we lose interest or will and things can fall apart.
By seeking motivation and purpose in our day-to-day, we can try to hold onto that willpower and navigate through our days with purpose in every step. Every small task you do is important. God sees you. Even when you feel that nobody sees you wiping a nose or the table, or picking up another toy, or uplifting your spirit with God’s Word, He does.
God cares about you and everything you do. Do it for His glory and know that what you do is important, no matter how small. Make those moments count.
Many blessings to you!
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