When it comes to telling the truth, the image that pops into my mind is when a witness is sworn in and promises not to withhold anything in a courtroom. They swear to tell the whole truth.
I think we’ve heard the spiel at some point in our lives:
I swear to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God.
In a court, we’re all aware that testimonies are often penetrated by lies, omissions, twisting of truth, varying recollections, and other skewed representations of the “truth” sought in a trial.
Again, this is telling the truth instead of being honest.
Why is it that we cannot trust this swearing in? Why, when bring God into the equation of the statement, is the testimony wrought with falsehoods?
When the bible talks about the truth, it speaks of the whole truth without blemish. Free of lies, omissions, twisting of truth, varying recollections, and other skewed representations of the truth.
25 Therefore, rejecting all falsehood [whether lying, defrauding, telling half-truths, spreading rumors, any such as these], speak truth each one with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one another [and we are all parts of the body of Christ].
Ephesians 4:25 AMP
The bible speaks of real, pure truth. The truth that sets you free.
Not the truth that condemns you.
3 To do righteousness and justice
Is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice [for wrongs repeatedly committed].
Proverbs 21:3 AMP
We need to strive to provide whole truths. The real truth.
We need to strive to keep lies (including those of omission and blatant lies – big or small) out of every interaction.
But, we also need to use this same practice with ourselves.
In every situation, we need to be honest with the whole truth.
18 Little children (believers, dear ones), let us not love [merely in theory] with word or with tongue [giving lip service to compassion], but in action and in truth [in practice and in sincerity, because practical acts of love are more than words].
1 John 3:18
We need to love ourselves and those around us with the truth and with action. Our greatest commandments revolve around love.
Can we love when our relationships are riddled with lies?
First of all, we need to love ourselves. We have been made in God’s image and according to His design. We need to love ourselves how our Heavenly Father loves us. You are loved. You are special. He has forgiven you. You have a purpose. Know the whole truth and love yourself based on that truth.
With that in mind, we need to tell the honest truth about God’s love and His desires for us. He desires a relationship with you and me. We are sinners, but Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice and we are forgiven. You are forgiven. I am forgiven.
By loving our God and ourselves and practicing honest truth in these areas of our lives, we will be able to extend that same love to others. We will be able to disciple and encourage through the love we give and the trust others feel they can have with us.
By practicing telling the whole truth, I am able to extend that to my family.
I am able to keep lies from driving a wedge in our relationships. My family can trust in me fully.
That being said, I am far from perfect.
This is what I’m striving for. I want sin to have no place in the relationships I have with my family and my friends.
By practicing telling the whole, pure, honest truth, it becomes easier. I have no lies to keep up with and omissions to watch for. Those I trust know the hard truths and love and comfort me as we work through them. I also know some hard truths of those who have entrusted me with that knowledge.
Yes, there has been hurt and disappointment, but that evolves into deeper trust and understanding. It evolves to a stronger connection.
By having secrets built up, you build a wall between you and those you love. Between you and anyone you interact with.
By entrusting those secrets with those closest to you, you can tear down those walls brick by brick. Eventually a weight will lift and the whole truth emerges and new, flourishing relationships can develop.
You can cultivate healthier relationships with family, friends, coworkers, neighbours, strangers – there are no limits.
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It may surprise you how free and amazing it feels. Immediate freedom may happen, but chances are that it’ll take time, just as it took time to build that wall.
You may surprise yourself and find new opportunities that weren’t there before. New trust may be found. You may find more meaning behind striving to act in Godly ways. And you may just have newfound motivations for acting in those ways.
But it won’t be easy. Sin will always try to creep back into the picture. It always does.
The main thing is that we try with all our might to eliminate partial truths, lies, and omissions in our lives.
In the court of my life, I want to be found innocent of partial truths.
I’m trying – are you?
I’m praying that we can work towards a world that tells truth without blemish. That we all make a personally promise to try to tell the whole truth.
I promise to tell the whole truth. Please help me, God.
I’m praying God helps you, too.
Many blessings to you!
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