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The discovery that changed my life journey


Some days being a wife, mommy, or even a woman is hard. There are many expectations the world has for us, but we also have expectations for ourselves. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall short time after time, again and again.

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Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade my role as a wife, as a mom, or as a woman for anything. Nor does my husband force these roles on me. These are just roles that need to be filled and I choose to take them on.


About four years ago, I felt like I was stuck. I was struggling with my role at home, with my role as a recent university graduate, and with what I wanted for myself. When I clearly acknowledged that struggle and that I wanted change, I started doing some browsing on Pinterest (isn’t that what everyone does?). I was led to a website with the following verses from Proverbs 31 on it:

10 A capable, intelligent, and [b]virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.

12 She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.

13 She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].

14 She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household’s food from a far [country].

15 She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.

16 She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.

17 She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm.

18 She tastes and sees that her gain from work [with and for God] is good; her lamp goes not out, but it burns on continually through the night [of trouble, privation, or sorrow, warning away fear, doubt, and distrust].

19 She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She opens her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her filled hands to the needy [whether in body, mind, or spirit].

21 She fears not the snow for her family, for all her household are doubly clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made].

23 Her husband is known in the [city’s] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes fine linen garments and leads others to buy them; she delivers to the merchants girdles [or sashes that free one up for service].

25 Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; she rejoices over the future [the latter day or time to come, knowing that she and her family are in readiness for it]!

26 She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction].

27 She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],

29 [c]Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.

30 Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city]!

Proverbs 31:10-31 AMPC

Convicted to change

Can I just say WOW! I looked at that and felt completely overwhelmed. As a Christian, my walk was almost at a standstill at that point. We had just moved away from our amazing church to a small town where we were struggling to find a new church family; after struggling through this search for months, we had all but given up and briefly stopped over the winter months.

With these verses on my lap, I felt convicted to really examine my walk and figure out some next steps in hopes that I would feel renewed as a wife and new mommy. I simply needed to feel renewed body, mind, and soul.

Prior to this, I desired God. I desired Jesus. I was seeking Him.

But I never really pushed myself to live out His intentions for me.

Upon reading these words, I finally felt the push to look at my ways; I felt the need to reconsider some in favor of living closer to the wife of virtuous character as described in Proverbs 31. These verses started me on a whole new walk with God and truly began to elevate my faith to whole new heights.

Again, let me reiterate that not one person told me I needed to change. I was drowning in the chaos of my days. I told myself something needed to change.

As always, God provided what I needed with His Word. His Word gave me something to work towards and something to strive for.

Easy goal?

I went full tilt thinking I could achieve this in a week and quickly discovered that the wife described in Proverbs 31 is a really tall order. Like really tall.

I, to this day, don’t measure up, but I have something to work towards and keep in mind. I don’t use Proverbs 31 as a tool to measure my failure. Let me repeat: I do not use Proverbs 31 as a tool to measure my failures. I use it as a tool to guide my self-improvement.

Knowing that the woman outlined in the passage is a complex woman who had time to grow into who she was, and she was a woman who lived in a much different society that I do, I have picked through the scripture to choose a few goals for myself. The goals have adapted and changed in the last four years; they have changed as circumstances have changed or as I have been able to incorporate them into my lifestyle.

A lot of this blog from here forth will chronicle my adventure in discovering how to incorporate the traits of a wife of noble character into my life and how it manifests. There will be bloopers, major fails, and many, many successes along the way.

My next couple posts will start to look at a verse that immediately stuck out to me four years ago. One that I have an easy and difficult time with (depending on the life season I’m in). One that I find really helps the flow of our home when I really strive to do it.

15 She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.

Proverbs 31:15 AMPC

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Many blessings to you!

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Trying to forge my own way didn’t work. While struggling, these verses fell in my lap.

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